But this is out of necessity, as parenting after divorce is about creating regular predictable rituals and rhythms for children.After creating these new, safe, predictable spaces in which their kids can navigate the changes of divorce, dads may be very hesitant to meet their own needs socially or sexually. This is because they fear disrupting these safe spaces and rhythms in any way.2) Remember, these dads are already carrying the burden of their choice to divorce, a decision which many may have already told him is a “selfish” act.The shaming around divorce in our culture is epidemic.It is a precarious place to be initially, and newly single dads often see caring for their children as the clear and present through-line amidst the chaos of divorce and change.
Usually this means all the mechanics of raising a little one duplicated in a two separate homes.And that co-parenting space is often where single co-parenting dads focus the bulk of their energies.They are fiercely committed to their little ones saying, by action and by word, “you are loved.” I was once one of them. What I was seeking (and found) in a spouse was informed by what I experienced in part, in the co-parenting world.To go yet another step forward and even consider a new relationship seems like a risk too great and too self absorbed to indulge in.Dads who choose to co-parent are a growing subset of divorced parents with kids.
As more and more fathers take a hands on role in day to day parenting, they are committing to continuing parenting even after divorce.